I’ve Been Chosen!

My first Chosen experience has been something I’ll never forget. This year, I feel incredibly honoured to be part of T’s life through World Vision’s Chosen programme. T, a bright and lively 5-year-old from Bangladesh, has chosen me to walk alongside her on her journey, and I’m truly grateful for the connection we now share.

Looking back, I’ll admit I didn’t dare allow myself to be chosen before, and I was wrong to think that. It wasn’t until my trip with World Vision to Cambodia, hearing some of the trippers share about the excitement and significance of children having the power to choose, that I understood just how meaningful this experience is.

The Chosen programme isn’t just about us supporting a child—it’s about giving them the chance to take control of their own story. When a child chooses who they want to walk with, it empowers them in a way that’s so much more meaningful than I ever imagined.

T’s decision to invite me into her life has been such a humbling experience, and it continues to inspire me every day.

T, thank you for choosing me. It’s a privilege to be a part of your journey, and I’m excited to see where this path takes us.

If you’ve ever wondered what it feels like to be chosen by a child, I encourage you to look into the Chosen programme. It’s a journey you won’t forget and one that will change you in ways you can’t imagine.

May x

Cherishing Time Together

Life has a way of teaching us its most profound lessons when we least expect it. One of those lessons came through witnessing my mother's journey, especially during her final moments. It was a lesson about the preciousness of family time and the deep regret I felt for not having cherished it more when I had the chance.

Life often keeps us busy, with our attention divided among numerous responsibilities, commitments, and ambitions. In pursuing our dreams, we sometimes forget the very foundation that supports us — our family. It took a wake-up call to realise the significance of spending more quality time with my family.

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My mother's impending health challenges served as a stark wake-up call. Knowing that her time with us was limited made me reevaluate my priorities. I wished I had recognised the importance of family bonding earlier without needing a reminder of life's impermanence.

Our presence, our time, is one of the most valuable gifts we can give our family. It's not about grand gestures or extravagant vacations; it's about the everyday moments we share, the conversations over dinner, the laughter during family mahjong nights, and the support we offer during challenging times.

In our fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the demands of work, personal goals, and social activities. However, it's crucial to strike a balance and ensure our family doesn't take a back seat. Allocating dedicated family time on a regular basis is a choice we won't regret.

Family time isn't just about being physically present; it's about being emotionally present as well. These moments create lasting memories that will be cherished long after our loved ones are gone.

The lesson I learned from my mother's situation is clear: the time we spend with our family is a treasure. It's a lesson I wish I had fully grasped earlier. If I could turn back time, I would have devoted even more moments to creating memories and strengthening the bonds with my family.

With my mother's passing and the geographical distance that separates me from my siblings, staying connected has become even more crucial. Thankfully, we live in an era where technology has made it easier than ever to bridge the physical gaps that may separate us.

Let us not wait for wake-up calls. Prioritise family today and ensure our time together is filled with love, laughter, and cherished memories.

May x

Fitness Reset

Life has a way of throwing curveballs when we least expect them. My life has been a whirlwind of change, from moving to a new country to embracing a new relationship. Amidst it all, my fitness journey took a backseat. I blamed myself for not being disciplined enough and for my love of food. But today, I want to share how I'm rediscovering my passion for fitness and making positive changes, one step at a time.

Before the changes swept me off my feet, I was dedicated to my fitness routine. Running, marathons, and staying active were not just hobbies but a way of life. Then came COVID-19, which upended everything I believed in.

Moving to Bangkok brought new challenges. Finding the right gym and adjusting my workout routine wasn't easy. I had to adapt, and my fitness journey took a hit.

I decided to stand by my partner through his health and wellness journey, even though it meant adjusting my own habits. It was a difficult decision, but I wanted to support him every step of the way.

Six weeks ago, something clicked. Both my partner and I realised it was time to prioritise our health. We gave up alcohol, revamped our diets, and committed to regular workouts. It was a turning point we'll never forget.

Over the past six weeks, we've made incredible progress. Our dietary changes, increased exercise frequency, and a renewed commitment to fitness have transformed us physically and mentally.

I'm hopeful and determined as I prepare for an upcoming full marathon. My changes propel me forward, and I'm eager to see the results.

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This journey taught me consistency, support, and self-awareness are the keys to success. If you're facing similar challenges or changes in your life, remember that it's never too late to make a positive change.

My fitness journey has been a rollercoaster ride, but it's a ride I'm determined to enjoy. I'm grateful for the support and motivation I've found along the way, and I'm excited to see where this path leads me.

Share your story with me if you've experienced similar life changes or fitness challenges. Let's embark on this journey of self-improvement together, one step at a time.

May x

 

Bruce Lee: Be Water, My Friend

The best piece of advice I have ever received was "be like water." Often attributed to Bruce Lee, this advice is significant as it emphasises adaptability, flexibility, and resilience in life.

Water possesses the remarkable ability to assume various forms, whether it flows serenely as a river, crashes forcefully as waves, or settles tranquilly in a still pond. Likewise, embodying the essence of water in life means cultivating adaptability to changing circumstances, embracing the ebb and flow of existence, and mastering the art of surmounting obstacles.

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To be honest, it does take time 'to be water'. In the past, I grappled with stubbornness and a limited perspective that hindered my ability to think creatively and consider the bigger picture. Consequently, my work often became unnecessarily stressful, and I occasionally found myself trapped in inescapable corners where I couldn't breathe. My resistance to change compounded my challenges and impeded my ability to navigate life effectively.

However, the concept of "be like water" has transformed my approach to life. I've learned to emulate water's ability to navigate around obstacles, yielding to the currents of change rather than resisting them. This shift has fostered a newfound openness to fresh ideas and diverse viewpoints, enabling me to think more creatively and perceive the broader context of situations.

This advice has instilled in me the importance of embracing change rather than opposing it, ultimately allowing me to harness it to my advantage. Like water, I strive to navigate life's challenges by adjusting my approach while remaining true to my core values. Whether confronted with adversity or enjoying success, I aspire to be like water—resilient and adept at overcoming whatever life presents.

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My Mother's Legacy

Life is a journey filled with lessons, some learned through joyous moments and others through challenging experiences. As we navigate the twists and turns of life, we often stumble upon profound insights that shape our perspectives and priorities. The lesson I wish I had grasped earlier is the unselfish power of gratitude. This became clear to me during the passing of my beloved mother.

Growing up, like many young children, I often took the love and sacrifices of my mother for granted. I was oblivious to my mother's countless hours working tirelessly to provide for our family. She cooked, cleaned, worked, acted as our chauffeur for all our school activities, and did everything she could to ensure our needs were met and our dreams were supported. But in my youthful ignorance, I failed to appreciate her efforts.

One of the most profound lessons I learned from my mother's passing is the importance of expressing gratitude for the people and blessings we have in our lives while we still have the chance. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, but taking a moment to express gratitude can make a world of difference in our relationships and overall well-being.

My mother was always there for us, putting our needs above her own. She led a simple life, constantly striving to make ends meet and provide for her four children. While she seemed to find some enjoyment in her work, I believe it wasn't necessarily her dream job. She remained in the same job for over 30 years, prioritising stability and a guaranteed retirement fund over pursuing her aspirations.

She carried her burdens silently. Despite her challenges, her acts of generosity and compassion made a difference in the lives of those around her. This taught me that kindness is a powerful force that can bring positivity and happiness.

I deeply regret not learning the lesson of appreciation earlier in life, before her passing. However, her legacy lives on through the profound wisdom she imparted through her sacrifices. Today, I honour her memory by expressing gratitude, finding balance in my life, embracing simplicity, and spreading kindness wherever I go.

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My Journey of Child Sponsorship and Hope

 It all began with a simple memory, one that had long been tucked away in the corners of my mind. Back in 2019, a running friend approached me with a request to support her in a fundraising campaign to raise funds for children to have access to clean water through World Vision Malaysia. Without much thought, I donated, never fully realising the impact it might have or where this small act of generosity would eventually lead me.

Fast forward to today, and that seemingly insignificant gesture has evolved into a profound journey of child sponsorship, one that has touched my heart in ways I could have never imagined. It's a journey that has reshaped my perspective on giving, community, and the immense power of human connection.

As I reflect on how it all began, I can't help but feel grateful for that initial nudge towards generosity. Little did I know that this single act of kindness would become a defining chapter in my life, leading me to connect with remarkable young children from another part of the world, each with their own stories, dreams, and aspirations.

My journey into child sponsorship didn't begin with a grand plan or a deep understanding of the impact I could make. Instead, it was a moment of reflection that prompted me to explore child sponsorship through World Vision.

I did some research on the organisation's mission and values, learning about its commitment to improving the lives of children, families, and communities. The idea of forming a lasting connection with a child, walking beside them on their journey, and contributing to their well-being became increasingly appealing. It was a chance to not only offer financial support but also to build a meaningful relationship, share experiences, and witness firsthand the transformative power of compassion and support.

With this newfound sense of purpose and the desire to make a difference, I took the step to sponsor several children. Two were from Cambodia through World Vision Malaysia, one from Nepal, and one from Cambodia through World Vision Singapore.

My decision to sponsor children from Cambodia and Nepal was not arbitrary. It was deeply influenced by my experiences visiting Siem Reap in Cambodia and Nepal. In both places, I witnessed firsthand the challenges these children faced, especially in terms of education and poverty.

In Siem Reap, Cambodia, I saw the determination of young minds eager to learn, but I also saw the lack of resources and opportunities that held them back. Education was the key to breaking the cycle of poverty, and it became clear to me that this was an area where my support could make a significant impact.

Similarly, I witnessed the resilience of children and families living in impoverished conditions in Nepal. Poverty, often a barrier to education, limited their potential. It was at that moment that I knew I wanted to focus not just on providing financial assistance but also on empowering these children with access to quality education, a stepping stone towards a brighter future.

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As I reflect on this incredible journey that started with a simple act of kindness, I'm filled with gratitude for the opportunities it has afforded me to make a meaningful difference in the lives of these children.

Everyone Deserves a Chance 😊

May x

A Journey of Hope and Impact

Achieving my CPT certification is a significant milestone, a testament to the countless hours of study and unwavering dedication I poured into this endeavour. It signifies my commitment to helping others lead healthier lives. However, as I held that certification in my hands, I couldn’t help but wonder, “What’s next?”

While I’m brimming with brilliant ideas about the positive impact I want to make in the fitness world, I find myself standing at the crossroads of uncertainty. I’m currently living in a new country, far from the familiar surroundings and friends I once had. It’s just my partner and me on this adventure, holding onto the dreams and hoping for stability.

I’ve been diligently attending PT classes and immersing myself in my studies, absorbing as much knowledge as possible. But as any aspiring professional knows, the real world can vastly differ from textbooks and theories. It’s common to feel like a small fish in a big pond, especially when starting anew in an unfamiliar place.

Nevertheless, I firmly believe that dreams are worth pursuing, even when the path ahead appears unclear. I hold onto my vision of making a positive impact on people’s lives through fitness and personal training. With dedication, perseverance, and the right opportunities, I am confident I can turn these dreams into reality.

As I continue charting my course in this new chapter, I’m also exploring avenues to give back to the community. While I wait for the perfect opportunity to launch my fitness initiatives, I’ve embarked on a journey of charity work—a passion that had long remained dormant.

My demanding work schedule in the past had consumed much of my time, leaving little room for thoughts of giving back. While I had contributed to UNICEF Malaysia, I often wondered about the tangible impact of my contributions. Then, a memory resurfaced—there was a time when I donated to a charity organisation through a running friend several years ago.

I decided to trace back to the charity organisation I had contributed to, and it marked the beginning of my journey as a child sponsor. I took the step to sponsor several children, and it’s been an incredible honour. Through this journey, I’ve had the privilege to connect with these remarkable young children. We’ve exchanged heartfelt letters and shared experiences, and in doing so, I’ve witnessed firsthand the profoundly positive impact the contributions have on their lives.

In my next post, I’ll share more about this heartfelt journey into child sponsorship and the immense joy it brings me to make a meaningful difference.

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Thank you for being a part of my journey.

May x

My Journey: From Couch to Marathon Runner

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My incredible journey has carried me from the couch to the finish line of marathons. Back in my school days, running was a common activity, often a part of PE classes and annual sports days, though I never thought of myself as a particularly skilled runner.

My journey into the world of running began in late 2012, all thanks to an invitation from my sister and her friend to join them in the Penang Bridge Marathon's 10km fun run. I embarked on this adventure with no prior training whatsoever. It was a daring move, and to my surprise, I conquered my very first 10km run. Although I walked like a crab the next day, that memorable day marked the rekindling of my love for running.

I became addicted to the thrill of running and soon found myself registering for more running events in Penang. However, my passion had to make room for weekend studies, so I couldn't be as active as I wanted to be until 2014. It was during this time that I mostly participated in 10km events. In 2016, I took on my first half marathon, and that's when the real adventure began. And from that moment, there was no turning back. I've completed a grueling 50km Ultra Marathon, conquered 45 Half Marathons, and 9 Full Marathons to date. I take immense pride in the numerous trophies I've earned from the many local races I never backed down from—until the arrival of the Covid-19 pandemic.

The COVID-19 pandemic brought new challenges, including lockdowns in Penang, which imposed restrictions on outdoor activities. However, I was determined to keep running. I even tried running indoors, even if it made me look like a mad person. Despite the limitations, my passion for running remained unwavering.

During those runs, I couldn't help but ponder questions about the art of running, such as the right footwear, effective workouts, injury prevention, and optimal training methods. My running friends were a great source of wisdom, even though they weren't professionally certified. Their insights fueled my interest in fitness and the need to understand it better.

An important turning point in my journey came from a place of deep concern. I witnessed my beloved grandmother's health decline due to limited mobility, primarily caused by knee pain. Her frail body and delicate skin were powerful reminders of the significance of staying active, building our muscles, and looking after our overall health. Her struggles began in her late 60s, and she gradually reduced her movement around her late 70s, particularly after a fall. She became hesitant to move, and the arrival of Covid-19 further exacerbated her condition, causing her to age significantly, with arthritis adding to her challenges.

Fast forward to 2021, still serving as a CFO and juggling responsibilities among 4-5 offices in the Asia region, I stumbled upon an opportunity that felt like destiny—a Personal Trainer course offered via Zoom online study. It was a perfect fit. I signed up, eagerly attended classes, immersed myself in self-study, and my interest in fitness deepened further. I found myself brimming with ideas and aspirations to leverage this newfound knowledge to help others lead healthier lives.

My aspiration is clear. I will use my passion for fitness and personal training to make a positive impact on people's lives.

I hope you enjoyed reading about my experiences and motivations. Thank you for joining me on this incredible adventure. Stay tuned for more stories, insights, and inspiration on my journey from the couch to becoming a marathon runner and an aspiring fitness trainer.

Together, we'll discover the joy of a healthy lifestyle, one step at a time.

May x

 

My Toughest Decision: Resigning from My High-Flyer Corporate Role

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Some decisions in life are straightforward, while others are agonisingly difficult. I've realised the latter can test your determination, shake your confidence, and challenge your very sense of self. One such decision that I grappled with and continue to reflect upon was my resignation from my CFO role.

For over 2 decades, I had dedicated myself to a career that was defined by determination, hard work, and unwavering commitment. Climbing the corporate ladder, I achieved a position many aspire to reach. But success, as they say, comes with its own set of burdens.

In the corporate world, I encountered my fair share of challenges. The politics, the pressure, and the relentless pursuit of profit all took a toll on my sense of fulfilment and purpose. I was caught in a web of what I've come to call "corporate nonsense" that often left me questioning the very essence of my work.

The turning point in my journey came when I lost my mother. She had devoted her entire life to supporting our family, as my father wasn't around often, leaving little time for her to enjoy the fruits of her hard work during her retirement years. I deeply admire my mother for shouldering these responsibilities so gracefully. However, just six months into her retirement, she received a devastating cancer diagnosis.

I couldn't help but feel immense guilt and frustration for not being able to afford the treatment that might have saved her life. This experience became a profound awakening for me. It made me realise that no matter how hard you work or how much you earn, time and health are precious and cannot always be controlled or bought.

The decision to step away from my CFO role was not made hastily. It took me five years of careful consideration and diligent planning to ensure that I had worked hard and saved enough for my future. This decision bore the weight of many years of effort and accomplishments, but it also held the promise of something deeper—a golden opportunity to redefine my life on my own terms, unburdened by the constraints of corporate life.

The internal battle I wrestled with was overwhelming. In the initial weeks of not working, I relished the break, but as the months passed, a sense of shock and guilt set in. I grappled with the feeling that I wasn't contributing and feared stagnation. I had always been active, but the constraints imposed by the pandemic limited my options. The fear of the uncertain future, self-doubt, and the persistent question of whether I had made an enormous mistake haunted me daily. It was an ongoing struggle, with my rational mind conflicting with the desires of my heart.

In the end, what allowed me to come to terms with my choice was recognising that it was a conscious decision to embark on a path aligned with my core values—a path where I could seek fulfilment beyond the restrictions of the corporate world. This realisation spurred me to begin planning and enrolling in courses to further my journey.

May x

Embracing Change

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For more than two decades, I embarked on an incredible career journey that took me from a humble low-level position to the esteemed role of CFO. I have always been driven by a strong work ethic, determination, and the pursuit of financial security. My journey began in less privileged circumstances where I tirelessly supported myself due to financial constraints that prevented my further education, a sacrifice I made for my siblings. Despite the challenges, I worked my way up, earning degrees and achieving professional success.

However, life has a way of presenting us with unexpected opportunities and moments of reflection. About 9 ago, I experienced a profound loss when my beloved mother passed away. This event marked a turning point in my life. It was then that I began to reassess my priorities and question whether the path I had been on was truly fulfilling.

As I ventured into my 40s, I made a courageous decision. I left my high-paying job as a CFO to embark on a new chapter, one filled with purpose, personal growth, and the pursuit of passions I had long set aside. It was a daunting step to leave behind the comfort and security of a successful career, but deep within, I knew it was the right move for me.

Transitioning into running my own small business has been both challenging and rewarding. While I now focus on part-time administrative support work, it has opened up opportunities for me to explore my interests and truly live out my values. With each passing day, I find myself more fulfilled and motivated to make a difference in the lives of others.

This courageous step has allowed me to break free from the confines of the corporate world and embrace a life that aligns with my true passions. While the path may be uncertain at times, I am grateful for the opportunities that lie ahead. Through hard work, determination, and an unwavering belief in myself, I am confident that this new chapter will bring about personal fulfilment and growth beyond measure.

I've always been passionate about fitness, but the path forward was unclear. Recently, I've taken steps to turn that passion into a potential career. I'm currently attending personal training sessions to enhance my own fitness and to gain the skills and knowledge required to become a certified trainer. It's a journey of self-improvement that I'm excited about.

Learning is a lifelong endeavour, and I am committed to staying informed and up-to-date. I have enrolled in numerous online courses and educational programs to expand my horizons and ensure that I am always growing, both personally and professionally.

Through this blog, I hope to document my experiences, insights, and lessons learned as I navigate this new chapter of my life. My goal is to inspire and connect with others who may be on similar journeys or who simply seek a fresh perspective on life.

Thank you for joining me on this adventure. I look forward to sharing my thoughts, experiences, and the joy of discovering what truly makes life meaningful.

May x

Hello World!

Welcome to my blog! I’m May, and this is a place where I open up about my journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and living life to the fullest. As someone who’s naturally outgoing but can feel a bit shy in new situations, I’m looking forward to connecting with you and growing together through this space. Here’s a glimpse into my story and the experiences that shape who I am. 

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